May 31, 2007


When it comes to dating, does age really matter? That seems to be the question of the week for a whole lot of the single women I hang out with. Most of us are pushing 30, or already there. When we think of relationships, we think of them in the long term, because we are growing up, and are sick of wasting our time with one night stands and those annoying one month relationships. We feel that we are too old for guys in their early 20's and too young for someone who is in their mid-thirties. And guys our own age seem to be almost non-existent. If you are dating someone who is older than you, you worry that if you stay together, he won't want the same things as you do, because in his mind, it could be a 'been there, done that' situation. If you're dating someone younger, you run the risk of not being able to move forward, because, just like you were at their age, they just aren't ready for any kind of commitment, and have a lot more growing up to do.

We go on and on about how we're too old, too young, too mature, too immature.

But ladies, I think we need to stop it. If that person makes you happy, if they treat you well, and possess the qualities that are on your little mental list of what you are looking for in a mate, then just go for it. No matter how old he is, or you are, there are going to be some issues and some bumps in the road if it turns into a full on relationship. Deal with those things as they come, don't dread the issues you are afraid of, because when you do that, you turn it into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

And hey, it's spring. Spring fever is in the air, and we all deserve some cuddling on a rainy night. Does it really matter if you can see yourself with that person for ever and ever? Go forth, and have fun, girls, and quit worrying about how old you are. I did, and it's working out for me.

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